Anonymous asked: As an INTJ, what's it like living in New York?
What an interesting question, anon! I’ve spent a few days trying to formulate an answer that doesn’t conflate “INTJ” with “socially awkward weirdo” or “nerd,” and I think I failed at that part, but I will try to answer it. And I sadly live in Florida now, but I can speak from the perspective of my 2 years living in the city.
The one really bad thing about living in NYC as an INTJ: The crowds and noise levels took some getting used to, and even after two years there I still had days where I just wanted to go home and hide under a blanket. I think New Yorkers in general are very respectful of one another’s personal space, but there’s only so respectful you can be on the 1 at Times Square when it’s 5:30 p.m. on a Wednesday.
But despite the crowds, I generally felt both very safe and very anonymous in NYC. I like the feeling of being anonymous; I think this is probably an INTJ thing. I liked being able to go somewhere without having to worry about awkward run-ins with various acquaintances (something that happens to me a lot in Current College Town, Florida).
Socially, NYC is the best city I’ve ever lived in. I’ve heard people complain about how hard it is to make friends in NYC, but that was not my experience at all. Part of this was luck; I did NaNoWriMo a few months after I moved to the city and I met a lot of great people through that. Almost all of my social circle in NYC was/is composed of people I met either directly through NaNo or through other NaNo people (and I’ve heard other NYC NaNoers in my group of friends say the same thing).
My friend Amanda and I talked a few years ago about how NYC is a great city for nerds. You wouldn’t think it would be, but the great thing about NYC is that there are tons of groups for whatever activity you’re interested in, even stereotypically introverted activities—writing groups, book clubs knitting groups, etc. And I think precisely because it is such a big, impersonal city, people are always looking to expand their social circles in ways that people in smaller cities aren’t. I went to MeetUps regularly for a year or so in my current city—which in terms of population is hardly a small town—and nothing really came of them. I’ve had a really hard time making friends here, which was not at all the case in NYC.
TLDR: Living in NYC as an INTJ is better than you might think.