Harris O’Malley, "Ask Dr. Nerdlove: Will I Always Be An Overweight Virgin?"
To be perfectly frank: your attitude is what’s holding you back. You don’t believe that women can be attracted to you… so small wonder they aren’t. Don’t get me wrong: this isn’t some woo-woo, newage (rhymes with sewage) “wish hard enough and it will come true” bullshit. The way you feel about yourself directly affects everything else.
It affects your body language - you curl in on yourself, you slouch, you refuse to look people in the eye. It affects the way you interact with people - you hold yourself back because there’s no point in flirting or giving people the idea that you’re interested. And it makes it harder for people who would be into you to connect with you - you’ll miss signals of interest because you’ll have convinced yourself that there’s no way that she could actually like you, therefore you must be mistaken.
You write, “I’m absolutely smitten, and want to prove to him that my intentions are genuine. But are they?” If you have to ask, your intentions probably aren’t genuine. You’re in lust with your friend, and you’re all worked up over this idea that he could be your prince charming, but you don’t really love him. You may recognize many of his good qualities, but until you’re also enraptured by his vulnerability and his disappointment — the heartbroken chubby boy hiding inside that slick exterior — you’re not ready to love him for exactly who he is.Heather Havrilesky, "Ask Polly: My Friend Lost Weight and Now I Want Him. Am I Shallow?"
Young men arrive at partnered sex experts in their own orgasm. They have been jacking it for 10 years, or 5 years at least. They arrive at partnered sex knowing what it takes. And too many young women arrive at partnered sex being like, “Okay, here’s my vagina. I’ve never had an orgasm. I’ve never touched myself. Make it work.” It’s true. Guys know what they need and it’s gonna be there. I like to say that if a guy needs a canoe and a goat to get off, you’ll go home with him that first time and there’s gonna be a canoe and a goat in his bedroom. And he’s gonna be like, “That’s what it takes, canoe and a goat. You’re up for my canoe and my goat or you’re not”.Dan Savage, Savage Lovecast Episode 416
When you look at your life as an episode of a TV show, like Girls or Sopranos or Mad Men, you can think, “This is a good episode.” It’s not a bad thing that happened to you; this is a good episode. This is the episode when Pete gets the call that the show’s not coming back. I’m watching that episode!
Pete Holmes on The Nerdist (via ongradschool)
Reblogging myself because I need this reminder right now.