People ask me, ‘What are you most proud of?’ I think I’m most proud of the fact that I moved here. I tried it. Nothing happens unless you set the wheels in motion. So to me, that was everything — whether those wheels squeaked a lot or didn’t move sometimes didn’t matter. I could walk home from a comedy club at three in the morning, no money, after I bombed in front of four Dutch sailors and was like, ‘Yes!’ I loved…every… minute…of it.” Jon Stewart

She liked books more than anything else, and was, in fact, always inventing stories of beautiful things and telling them to herself.

Frances Hodgson Burnett (via observando)

Pretty sure this is from The Little Princess, which was one of my favorite books as a kid and in retrospect probably had an embarrassingly large influence on the person I am today.

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We all know City Island right? You know the movie with a subplot focusing on a feeder teenager and next door neighbor web model?  You should also watch The Secretary. While it’s not about feederism, it is about a couple completely dependent on their kinks. Their relationship dynamic is 24/7 fetish play.  It would be a very sweet cliche romance if the characters weren’t so fucking deviant.  It’s one of my favorite movies.  It is definitely my favorite romance.   

Secretary is one of my favorites, and since I’ve never seen or heard of City Island, I’ll be watching it at some point in the next 24 hours…

Anonymous said: Come baaaaack :(


Nope. But this Wednesday at 1pm EST, the esteemed Laura Bogart and I will be guests on Colin McEnroe's WNPR show to realtalk some lady who wrote a “book” on “the detrimental impact of fat on sexual health and intimacy.” So there’s that!

Anyway, my band released a single and I got a smartphone.



He dismissed those who dismissed him, and he imagined that he had more steel, more character, than people who were thinner. He knew what hardship felt like, he imagined, and that made him a more complex man. He turned rejection into an excuse for being haughty.
Sarah Varney, XL Love: How the Obesity Crisis is Complicating America’s Love Life
If I was interested in a guy, I would never, ever let him know. I would never tell him because I didn’t think I would be desirable.
Sarah E., quoted in Sarah Varney’s XL Love: How the Obesity Crisis is Complicating America’s Love Life
How do people who are overweight or obese seem to learn the stupefying customs that direct human courtship? How do they come to see the rules of the game? By running headfirst into them.
Sarah Varney, XL Love: How the Obesity Crisis is Complicating America’s Love Life
Rob faced a challenge that befalls many men and women who begin their romantic lives as obese: He never had “starter” relationships that teenagers and young adults use as training grounds for adult romantic relationships. He had missed out on those delirious flings that help us learn how to move in tandem with another person, in which we begin to sketch the outlines of the kind of relationship we want to be in, where we break another person’s heart and have our heart broken and survive. It seems decidedly unromantic, but the tester relationships and love affairs of our teens and twenties are skill-building exercises that ready us for committed, long-term unions. There is utilitarian value in a broken heart.
Sarah Varney, XL Love: How the Obesity Crisis is Complicating America’s Love Life
Puppy love allows you to develop romantic relationship skills. Those skills allow teenagers to learn how to balance another person’s needs with your own needs. It helps with your own verbal communication. It helps you practice social skills that are critical to getting into college and getting a job. They do have a cumulative effect. They set people’s life course trajectories off in different directions.
Dr. Holly Rose Fee, quoted in Sarah Varney’s XL Love: How the Obesity Crisis is Complicating America’s Love Life
I am not Mike Brown. I am white. I am middle class. I am female. I am small. I am not considered a threat. When police see me they see someone who looks like them. They see their mothers, their daughters, their sisters, themselves. I am not at risk of being shot by police for existing while black. I am not at risk of being shot while unarmed. I am not at risk of being shot while armed with nothing more than a BB gun. I am not at risk of being shot for reaching for my wallet. I am privileged.
But I am outraged. And if you aren’t outraged, then you aren’t paying attention. This is America in 2014. This is our reality. It’s so easy to get jaded and to ignore these atrocities, to act like this doesn’t affect us. It’s so easy to get apathetic. In the past it was the youth who protested. Where is the rage of the youth? Where is our rage?
Like I said, I am not Mike Brown. But I am outraged.
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